Essentially, you’re looking for someone else to see the best in you and believe in you. If you’re in the habit of feeling bad about feeling down or insecure, or generally having emotional reactions to emotions, you will inevitably end up feeling stuck and helpless.Give yourself what you’re seeking from them before making that call. Get in the habit of telling yourself, “I have a right to feel how I feel.” This will help you understand your feelings and work through them much more easily, because you won’t be so deeply embedded in negativity about yourself.We also need to be able to validate, support, and help ourselves.With this in mind, I’ve come up with a few ideas to create a little more balance in my support system, making myself a more central part of it.If you’re also looking to increase your capacity for self-soothing so you can depend less on validation from others, you may find these ideas helpful: Of course, this assumes you already keep a gratitude journal to recognize and celebrate all the good things in your day.If you don’t, you can still take a few minutes every day to give yourself some credit.
These Romances, however, were just what Diaghilev liked.
What he valued most was broad melody, and in particular whatever gave a singer the chance to display the sensuous qualities of his voice.
During the years of his apprenticeship he bore our criticisms and jokes with resignation, but as he learned more about music – and about the history of art in general – he gained in self-confidence and found reasons to justify his predilections.
Once you’ve accepted your feelings, you’ll then be free to seek support for the actual problem—not your self-judgment about having to deal with it. Many of us didn’t receive the type of love, support, and kindness we needed growing up, and this may have taught us to treat ourselves harshly and critically.
When you’re looking for that warm, fuzzy feeling that emerges when someone you trust tells you, “Everything is going to be okay,” imagine yourself saying it to your younger self.
Without being professionals or virtuosos, we were all passionate lovers of music; but Serge dreamed of devoting himself entirely to the art.