Theology of dating
The argument for this goes that God made us to make our own choices and decisions, and therefore he has no interest in playing a role in match-making.
Basically get out there, find yourself a partner and be done with it, don’t wait on or expect God to do any of the work, it is entirely up to you. It basically argues that God wants us to be proactive in the pursuit of a partner.
However as 2008 starts to draw to a close…I will be honest to my blogging public and say I am sensing a stronger drive returning, a deeper longing to find that ‘significant other’ to journey with.
But as I cast my eyes around Margaret River…the landscape is virtually barren when it comes to Christian women my age. ’This question is also raised for me on a pragmatic level.
In 2018, Harris disavowed I Kissed Dating Goodbye and discontinued its publication.This camp basically holds that, as Christians, we don’t really personally have a say, when the time is right God will bring someone along and God will make sure that the 2 of you end up together.I have even heard this argument argued for based on the Genesis account, whereby Adam searched the land for a ‘partner’ but could not find one suitable himself, so God made him one.However I am lacking something significant for that plan to happen!Between 18-22 I used to say to God often ‘God, I will go wherever you want…just find me a wife first.’ In the end, God had other plans, he told me to go somewhere and I have, BEFORE I have a wife. I can honestly say it would have been much more difficult to move to Margs ‘if’ I had a wife.
Joshua Eugene Harris (born December 30, 1974 in Dayton, Ohio) is an American author and former pastor.