Dating and work for married people
“We have always been able to spend a great deal of time together and a true friendship was easily formed,” says Barbara Adoff, who has been married to her husband Bill for 45 years.“Best friends are there for each other, support each other, and like to have fun together.When you’re with your friends it can be intimidating for someone to come up to you, but when you roll solo it’s easier for someone who might want to get to know you to make their move. If you're shy about going out alone, bring a book or a journal at first, and take small steps to get comfortable with the feeling.
(But you’ve seen hundreds of rom-coms, so you know that.)Of course, you need to be safe and should never feel harassed— but sometimes, rape culture has made us believe we're always in danger, when in reality, we might actually sometimes enjoy the thrill of talking to a stranger.Every person I’ve ever dated, including the man I married, I met in real life. Even if you know, for a fact, that you will never date any of your coworkers (which is probably a good thing), you never know who they might ask, from outside the office, to tag along. I don’t mean inviting yourself to whatever events aren’t “public,” but if you see that one of your Facebook friends is going to an art exhibit opening or a reading at the local bookstore, RSVP and go.Whether it was a bar, work (yes, bad idea, I know), or at one of the many media events that I used to frequent back in my social days (I’m exhausted just thinking about it! It's a great way to find out what's going on and to get slightly outside your comfort zone, without having to show up somewhere completely alone. Getting up and going out, especially this time of year, seems like cruel and unusual punishment, but if you’re going to meet someone IRL, you have to venture out into the real world.Your friends know you well enough to know what type of person will click with you.This is your best case scenario for meeting people IRL, so don't roll your eyes at it.
Once upon a time, in an age before the Internet, the only way to meet people was to leave your apartment and interact with humanity.