Dating an asian guy
I do believe that there is a bit of disconnect between Eastern and Southern Asians, and that Southerns are viewed much less favorably and unfairly in western cultures. I‘m European and a friend of mine is a prime example of someone with so called yellow fewer.She totally objectifies korean men and says stuff like “I love them the most when their eyes are super asian without double eyelids“. She‘s currently dating a Chinese-American and because he isn‘t her favorite kind of Asian she said he actually isn‘t her type and keeps on looking for korean men and hides her relationship on all the apps she‘s talking to korean guys with. I, too, think Koreans are handsome but she takes it to a whole different level because she likes them for their race and not for their personality or everything else apart from their race based looks. I prefer dating Asian girls and have dated outside my ethnic group here and there, but not anything long term.A man who is 5 feet 6 inches tall, for example, needs an additional 5,000 to be as desirable as a man who is approximately 6 feet tall (the median height in our sample) and who makes ,500 per year.What plays a key role in the Asian American narrative to marry interracially?In general, my finding is that inter-racially married second-generation Asian American men generally fell into a category of those who engaged in a strategy of either “denial” or “compensation” in regard to dominant American masculinity ideal.That is, they, though not all, tended to be “compensators,” highly assimilated individuals who saw themselves as people who either transcended the negative Asian male stereotype by trying hard to achieve the hegemonic masculinity, or “deniers” people who did not believe that negative stereotypes existed or that these stereotypes applied to themselves since they were really “white.” Such assimilative tendencies often went hand in hand with a desire for women of the dominant group in society, white females, whose approval provided these men with a sense that they are successfully approximating the American middleclass hegemonic masculinity and winning societal acceptance.It seems that experiences during the teenage years where individuals who experienced as strong sense of racial , ethnic , or cultural difference made these individuals self-conscious about their culture , producing desires to whiten.The following is From It is worthwhile noting the reasons that the female respondents gave for not finding Asian males appealing. He was very non-Asian.” In her view, it is not that all Asian men are unable to attain the ideal hegemonic American masculinity, but that achieving the hegemonic ideal went in tandem with complete assimilation and Anglo-conformity, including using their superior physical capital to date white women exclusively and reject Asian women.
Despite what people may say , or excuses that may be brought up , the hegemonic masculinity that is a part of American society , and it’s penalties on Asian men affect the real lives of Asian men. However, men who grew up finding non-Asian women, especially white ethnic women, more desirable did tend to elevate white females as paragons of ideal femininity in terms of physical appearance, and even personality and character.
So how about we just use Maybe the most striking numbers are with regard to income-ethnicity trade-offs, as shown in Table 5.6.
For equal success with a white woman, an African-American man needs to earn 4,000 more than a white man.
EDIT 3 - sorry, if you’re a white guy and ur curious please also feel free to comment 😂EDIT 4 - wow thanks for all the responses! I’ve been married to my beautiful wife of 15 years because I never gave up. I wouldn't say it is necessarily bad, but it is very polarized compared to what I believe other races of men might experience.
I’m glad that it seems like we’re all learning here. Instead of getting laughed at and ignored by all women because I am Asian, I have found that there are basically women that would never ever even think about wanting to be with a Korean man, and there are women that really only seek out Korean men.
EDIT 5 - Receiving a lot of questions about data collected on online dating and race/ethnicity! I found an article that pretty much sums up my own research — https://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2013/12/11/online-dating-shows-us-the-cold-hard-facts/ Please feel free to PM me to talk more about this. There's very little room for a middle ground as an Eastern Asian man, at the current moment.